Woman-handling Your Dreams

I don’t know if you’re reading this for the Clickbait title or what but regardless - let’s get into it.

For years I’ve had a steady streak of anxiety ridden dreams.

Usually it’s about me forgetting choreography or being on stage and not knowing the lines or being super, super late to something with no clothes no shoes no idea where I’m going…etc.

Basic code red sh*t.

Monday morning I woke up with my alarm at 5:20am like I always do. I was knee-deep in this amazing dream. Moments before the alarm went off, it began to crumble. You guessed it…I was late, I was lost, I wasn’t naked but it was an overall tragic finish.

As I opened my eyes and turned off the alarm I sat up in bed, put my feet on the floor, paused and thought ‘we’re doing this differently’.

I laid back down on the bed, closed my eyes, put my hands on my belly and said ‘let’s change the ending’.

As quickly as I closed my eyes, I dropped back into the final moments of my dream. Instead of being late and lost - everything shifted. The people I had been talking to came running back to give me one more hug. ‘I said it’s OK. We’re not in a hurry. I know exactly where we’re going. We’re right on time.’

The exchange was beautiful. I opened my eyes, sat back up and proceeded to get dressed for my morning.

Growing up there were these “choose your own adventure” books that I loved. My mom would take me to the library and I would always make sure to grab one. The first half of the book was a story and the second half of the book laid out 2 or three different endings. You got to choose which one you wanted - it was thrilling.

May I remind you, my friend, that you have an infinite number of possible endings.

The freedom in that sentence is bone chilling on its own.

Whenever I think about infinite possibilities, I shudder at the idea that my life is in my hands. My hands meaning … my choices.

UGH.

There’s plenty of literature to support this. There’s also plenty of TikTok’s as well…(how do I always bring TikTok into these emails. LOL)

Whilst on Tik Tok, I came across an incredible speaker, author, and business consultant by the name of Myron Golden. (Was it obvious I just wanted to use the word ‘whilst’ back there.)

I watched this 13 minute video that was clearly filmed at a lecture he was giving and one of the take away moments was that faith and doubt are both beliefs.

Myron explained this is what most of us don’t understand:

“Most people believe that faith is belief and that doubt is the absence of belief but faith is belief in the outcome I desire and doubt is belief in the outcome I DON’T desire.”

DOUBLE UGH.

Yesterday morning I did not desire a day clouded by low key anxiety so for once, I just woman-handled my own subconscious. In an effort to take a smidgen of control over the belief that my anxious nature was acceptable, I created FAITH in my desired ending.

I’m embarrassed to admit this, but it never occurred to me that I could change the ending of my anxiety ridden reoccurring dreams.

Monday morning opened up a trap door in my brain.

I needed that as I had been anxious over the fact that I didn’t know what this email was going to be about. It’s wild because half of me was confident the topic would present itself and the other half of me was doubting my ability to put a sentence together.

What would it take for you to let your intuition, that deep knowing, lead the charge?

The Faith Belief not The Doubt Belief.

They are two sides of the same coin after all.

What do you have to lose?

If there are an infinite number of possible endings - that simply means you can’t screw it up.

When you observe yourself stumbling or even free falling into big doubts, pause and choose a different ending.

OKAYILOVEYOUBYEEE,

xx

Nic.

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ppps. EPISODE 43 OF SHOCK AND YALL IS OUT NOW and I’m speaking with astrologist extraordinaire DANI BEINSTEIN. Combining literature and philosophy to form her own major, she graduated Magna Cum Laude from NYU with a BA in Humanities in 2003. Dani then spent nearly 10 years in the media world in New York City and Los Angeles working with various organizations that specialize in politics, education, film, television and modern culture when she concluded that her passion and mission was something much deeper. She earned her MA in Spiritual Psychology in 2012, followed by an additional training year in Consciousness, Health & Healing in 2014. This work, which was so rich and deep and immersive, changed her life. As a gifted observer of human behavior and the celestial interplay in our daily lives, she manages to make the esoteric world a grounded road map for folks navigating the ups and downs of life. I can speak from experience in saying this woman is dialed into her truth and excels in her mission to provide astrological counseling and guidance for the seekers among us. Please take a listen and here are a couple sneak peeks from our episode:

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