When You Go High...
…Your Ex Enters the Chat.
Have you noticed? I don’t mean it literally, but if the shoe fits…
Something I’ve observed as I’ve worked to create more opportunity, more presence, more clarity for future me, is that I’m faced with the lower level energies of self and others…riiiiight as it’s time to rise.
Like every time.
The duality of experiencing a blessing or achievement paired with an old behavior or pattern that reminds you - oh hey big shot - you’re still a work in progress.
IF Y’ALL ARE LIKE NO M’AM I DON’T HAVE A CLUE WHAT YOU’RE SAYING JUST SKIP TO THE END I GUESS BECAUSE I’M GOING IN HERE…
I launched a podcast and the day I was to film my first episode, all the lights went out in the office where I shoot said podcast. This is not a big issue except for the fact that these light bulbs are part of a fixture that were apparently personally designed and handcrafted by Edison himself. You cannot find these bulbs anywhere online or otherwise and they’re a b*tch to put in.
The week unfolded outwardly as best as possible but behind the scenes I was faced with some co-parenting hurdles that were low key giving me a run for my “evolved and regulated” money. It’s been a minute since I’ve been triggered by co-parenting situations but since Matt has passed everything’s shifted. Yet again.
The details aren’t important. Addressing the drama this time, I had to buckle up.
Before Matt entered the picture I’d have sleepless nights, breakdowns and outbursts of ‘how the hell am I supposed to do this!” Having Matt as a reliable, intuitive partner and role model for Beau in our shared home was a blessing that I never expected to lose. We were good. In the 8 years we were together I had been held by my own vision and his support of my vision. That was a gift. Again, a gift I never expected to lose. We were individually working on our own blind spots and when moments of disruption arrived, co-parenting or otherwise, we were clear headed. Now that it’s just me again, the dynamic is new…or old…or new again …either way… it's exhausting.
My latest SHOCK AND YALL podcast episode with my friend Kelly LaVallie is all about the work you do day to day, year to year, that undoubtedly saves you should your world implode overnight. Obviously, I hope nothing of the sort crosses your path. I’m quickly discovering the benefit of healthy habits as a container for grieving as an unspoken blessing. With Kelly and I, our shared experience of losing our loves suddenly brought up an important point: the consistent work on your well-being is the safety net I hope you never need.
Kelly has self proclaimed old broad wisdom and let me tell you, she’s steep in wise words. We became friends on TikTok and then she lost her husband about 2 months before I lost Matt. We've connected on a deeper level because of this tragedy but I was fan-girling before our unfortunate induction into widow-hood.
I’m soooo excited for you to hear this episode because she gets it.
She really does.
The reminder for us all is that the climb is worth it.
If you wanna go high, get ready for the low life ankle grabbers because whether incidental or personal in nature, your rise will test you. It’s got to though. You cannot skip rungs on the ladder of life and expect to be acclimated to new heights. When you juggle the HIGHs while integrating the lows, you’re taking a much needed step up the ladder.
When you go high, the lows will test you …and you’ll survive those too.
OKAYILOVEYOUBYEEE,
xx
Nic.
ps. The winners from last week’s email blast for sharing and subscribing and commenting are as follows:
Prize 1: An Aviator Nation hat and a copy of the book SIGNS goes to: Estefani Akmari
Prize 2: An Aviator Nation tee and a signed copy of my book YOLKED goes to: Ashley Marley
Prize 3: (1) month FREE of the Infinite Membership. All access to all live and recorded content goes to: Jen Ziegler
pps. FEBRUARY FIT is liiiive. What you implement now as a habit can stay with you through spring and into summer. We are going strong on over 2 years of this program and the people who show up make this more than just fitness.
We begin with a ‘Welcome Party’ where we meet on zoom to introduce ourselves and offer up a word or phrase for the month. It’s just a wonderful way to connect and ask questions.
Every class begins and ends with CARS and we meet 4 times a week. Mondays we strength train LOWER body, Wednesdays we strength train UPPER body, Fridays are MOBILITY YOGA FLOW, and Saturdays we train FULL BODY + a 5 min guided meditation.
The strength we’ve built with this consistent schedule has been such a blessing. Folks create a weekly routine and the support and kindness from the group chat is always an added bonus. It’s actually hard to put into words. If you can’t make a live class, they go up on demand and you can do them whenever you like throughout the month. This is habit building and scheduled SWEATY FUN. Can’t wait for you to join us. Learn more or book yourself here.
ppps. My FREE birthday class is THIS Saturday February 3rd. 7:15-8am pst. We will begin with CARS, strength train lower body, share a dance break, strength train upper body, dance break, CARS, and then a 5 min meditation. That’s the format and I LOVE teaching a free class on my birthday so please come…bring anybody you like. It is listed as a donation class, so if you’d like to drop a tip I won’t say no but your presence is the real gift. I mean it. Sign up.
pppps. Classes this week:
* Tuesday QUICKIE YOGA (today) 12-12:30pm pst. $10. This is a well rounded, accessible yoga flow paired with music that includes mobility work and a 5 minute savasana. It’s meant to be a community offering at $10 a class and if you need financial assistance, just reach out. Hope to see you soon. Sign up here.
* Saturday FREE BIRTHDAY CLASS 7:15-8am pst. You’re coming right? It’s all levels and you can always modify or keep your camera off. I just wanna share time and space and all my favorite songs with you. lol. Sign up here.
* Saturday AVIATOR NATION YOGA FLOW 9-10am, 10:15-11:15am. In person, in Santa Monica. Come on out. Sign up here.
* Sunday AVIATOR NATION YOGA FLOW. 10:45-11:45am. In person, in Santa Monica. Come on out. Sign up here.
ppppps. LISTEN TO TODAY’S PODCAST EPISODE 6 WITH KELLY LAVALLIE AND PLEASE DOWNLOAD, SUBSCRIBE, COMMENT, SHARE, REVIEW AND AS ALWAYS, I WANT TO HEAR WHAT YOU THINK!!
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