ReInVeNtIoN

One of the cooler aspects of getting older is that you get to experience history repeating itself. Notice my choice of language. I could have said “have to”, but that’s lame.

You know I don’t take a single day for granted which is why “getting to” is important to emphasize.

When I was back in Alabama for my high school boyfriend’s funeral, my mom was going through her jewelry. She had so many pieces that were meaningful to her and landmark memories for me. I’ve been keeping my wedding ring in Alabama for years. My mom asked if I wanted it, and I said absolutely yes. I’m going to wear it!!

My plan was to re-invent this piece of jewelry so that it becomes art that sparks conversation rather than a token of a more complicated time.

I love my wedding ring.

I remember when Beau was super little he would twist it clock wise around my finger. It was a little tick that he had, but it made an imprint on me. Recently, I asked Beau if he remembered doing that and he said I do actually. That made my heart do a little dance. Maybe the imprint was meant for both of us.

I’ve been wearing the ring almost every day, and it brings me such joy. I’m stacking multiple rings around it, and I’m allowing myself to reinvent the meaning and the association that I had previously.

In my mind, reinvention replaces the foundation. This sounds pretty drastic, but if you think about the amount of times you need to shift your perspective, grow, outgrow, awaken, re-awaken over the course of your life, you can see where I’m coming from.

Stagnation is death… in nature and in terms of movement, joint health, and actual life choices.

It would be super cool if we could stay the same and not have to do any of this tedious personal work, but also we did not contract into these bodies, onto a 3D planet, filled with duality, to remain the same for 85 years.

If I look at my personal life, I’ve been able to reinvent partnership on a romantic level a few times over. Depending on the day and the year, I’d tell you this was a blessing or a curse. I’m assuming many of you have been in long-standing relationships and I pray they’re healthy and serving you well.

If not, this might hit differently.

Every relationship taught me something groundbreaking. One taught me what I could survive.

Another taught me what I deserved.

It goes without saying, some relationships are easier than others but the quality of your relationships are usually limited by the conversations you’re unwilling to have.

Saying the hard thing out loud and taking your next right step is the biggest hurdle to reinvention. Without faith and a dash of hope, you’ll never get the new version of you off the ground.

My friend Sharon Land made a great point that faith must precede hope. Hope as it stands, allows you to continuously cast the illusion of potentials versus having faith which has you listening and remaining open in the direction we are called.

It’s true, time and time again.

So the Re-invention requires the complete and total destruction of what was for what will be. Faith is the fuel that builds the base and that’s never cheap. It’s gonna cost you.

Please remember being alone is uncomfortable.

Being with the wrong person is expensive.

If you’re going through it - burning it down and whatnot - just know that that is the price of freedom my friend.

And you’re worth every last dollar.

OKAYILOVEYOUBYEEE,

xx

Nic.

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