Actions > Words
WWJD? ... I dunno but it probably wouldn't look like this.
I’m a creature of habit.
Every weekend I hit up the Sprouts market in my hood - wait did I tell you about the woman on Tik Tok who recognized me at Sprouts and made a comment on one of my videos like “I saw you at Sprouts last week”! I said “WHAT…why didn’t you say hi?”…She said “well I smiled at the magic of the moment, but I will next time.”
That was wild.
Now this past weekend I was doing my thang, spending all my hard earned money on overpriced eggs and grass fed beef. As I waited my turn to checkout I noticed the man in front of me was on a mission.
With his wife standing idly by, he was neck deep in Bible talk. Raving about how everyone has gotten it wrong. Jesus didn’t say this and Jesus didn’t say that and our biggest problem nowadays is philosophy!
Sir, I think philosophy is like number 14768.
My attempt at eavesdropping was not stealth. I was wide eyed looking at the cashier, looking at him, watching his wife. What a scene. When he finally walked away, I sheepishly smiled at her:
Cashier: “well I guess I don’t need church for another month”.
Me: (laughing) “yeah that was a lot.”
Cashier: “The first thing he said to me was what is your goal? I said ‘sir, I’m just trying to make it to 5:30 today’. He said ‘well my goal is to open a church…just for hispanics”.
Me: Oh, hmmm, okay.
Cashier: (who is black) So I guess I’m not allowed to go to his church anyway.
Me: (speechless…)
As we talked through this, I began to pack my own groceries. This is typical for me because I’m a weirdo - I like to pack the bags in accordance with how I’ve organized my fridge/pantry for efficiency when I unpack aaaaand I like to be of service to keep the line moving. When that man was talking AT HER he stood there pointing his finger, preaching while she packed all of his groceries into the bags.
Don’t talk about it, be about it.
If this man had been gentle, curious, open to her, helpful, and considerate; I’m certain his message would have been received differently.
Your energy precedes you. I’ve met numerous high profile, high achieving change makers and let me tell you the coolest ones have treated me like I AM THE ‘BIG DEAL’. The humility to stay open to others is what interests me. If you think you’ve seen it all, done it all, or have all the concrete answers…you’re probably not subscribed to my shit. Hahahaha. Seriously though, that’s not the vibe.
Actions over words.
Don’t kill the messenger but...You have to act. You have to do the thing. You can’t talk about it to death. You can’t dream it into existence without sacrificing some blood, sweat, and tears. Suffice it to say nothing changes unless you take action. There’s a quote on my website:
“You don’t need motivation to start. You need to start to get motivation.”
When you’re in process, much is revealed - often times that includes the motivation to continue or the inspiration to learn/do more. The last 2 months I’ve shared that I’ve been making big personal edits. Cleaner eating patterns, hormone replacement therapy, more walks, more training, more continued education, and more socializing. It’s working. When you take direct action you will see a change. If the change is not proving to be the desired outcome, guess what…you take different action.
Empty words are the self check out express line of life. You can zoom in and out as you please.
Actions are the full cart, cashier operated line. You place it down, they ring it up. There’s a transaction…literally and metaphorically. When the exchange takes place then you can decide…do I need $12 eggs today or maybe we just eat Cup O Noodles from here on out…
Actions over words.
Always.
OKAYILOVEYOUBYEEE,
xx
Nic.
ps. Classes this week:
* Tuesday (today) QUICKIE YOGA 12-12:30pm pst. $10. All levels yoga...this is a feel good, mobility based sesh…you might sweat a little but overall it’s just a great break in the day. This class has always been $10 as it began as a community class. If you need financial assistance with any of my classes, just ask - we'll make it work. Sign up here.
* Friday YOGA FLOW 6:30-7:05am pst. $20. This is part of the my May Fit program but open for anyone to drop in. We breathe and flow, sweat and stretch. I always sneak CARs into the sequence and we end with a 5 minute meditation or savasana. It’s a nice counter to all the strength training we’ve been doing. All you need is a block. Sign up here.
* Saturday FULL BODY STRENGTH 7:30-8am pst. $20. This is part of my May Fit program but open for anyone to drop in. The group energy is excellent and we begin with CARs, strength train and sweat it out with friends. Bring a glute loop/resistance band, lighter and heavier weights. Sign up here.
* Saturday AVIATOR NATION YOGA FLOW 9-10am, 10:15-11:15am.
In person, in Santa Monica. Come on out. Sign up here.
* Sunday KINSTRETCH 9-10am pst. $20. This is a 60 minute joint specific training that acts as the flossing of your joints, the veggies of all healthy movement. We do the CARS routine, strength train different joints each week, and end with breathwork. Sign up here.
* Sunday AVIATOR NATION YOGA FLOW. 10:45-11:45am. In person, in Santa Monica. Come on out. Sign up here.
pps. Save the Date: AUGUST 18-19TH, 2023 I’ll be in Denver, CO speaking at Samantha Joy’s FEMPOWERED live event among the likes of Amberly Lago, Brooke Hemingway, Sharon Land, Anjali Bhimani, Jaime McFaden and so many more. This is a 2-Day women’s transformational experience helping us let go of who we were, to step into who we are. If you’ve ever felt as though you’re keeping your head just above water yet you have a deeper calling to make a shift, we see you. In order to flip the script, you need community and support. This event will be exactly that and more! I have a $100 off code (SWEATSTILL100) and would love to spend some quality time with you. More details to come…
ppps. I’ll be hosting a book signing June 11th at the chic and classy LEYLIE boutique in Brentwood CA. Leylie makes the 7 shirts every woman needs in her closet. Her ‘Weekender shirt’ is one of my favorite grown up pieces. I get loads of compliments when I’m wearing her styles. Stay tuned for more details on this collaborative event. In the meantime, grab my book YOLKED and please leave us a 5 star review. This is a shameless ask but it means the world to me and helps get the word out. Hardcover (my fav), paperback and Kindle are available on Amazon or purchase from Barnes & Noble if you prefer.